18 responses

  1. Nicole
    November 22, 2010

    We’re doing the thanksgiving/christmas split this year.

    DH’s family for Thanksgiving, my family for Christmas. It helps that my family comes in and sees us (my sister lives a couple of hours away from us).

    Some years we do something different and my sister brings a bunch of her on-call friends Thanksgiving Friday. This year she’s going to Latin American instead.

    • admin
      November 22, 2010

      I like the split idea too, and for my sister it would work.

      Unfortunately, our parents are about 20 minutes apart, so we would still be stuck going to both.

      But since my sister wanted it this way… we win too. :)

  2. Everyday Tips
    November 22, 2010

    Oh how I hated running from one place to the other when we were first married. That ended for us when we had kids too, it was great!

    I host all holidays now, and whoever wants to show up from either side of the family is welcome.

    • admin
      November 22, 2010

      Sounds like a good but busy solution :)

      Still, sounds awesome!

  3. Car Negotiation Coach
    November 22, 2010

    I feel your pain. I’ve always had the same problem as well! But this year the baby makes everything different.

    Oh, it will be so nice not to travel the globe for th holidays this year!!!!

    • admin
      November 22, 2010

      That’s a definite plus to having a child :)

  4. First Gen American
    November 22, 2010

    Of all the things that are horrible about the holidays, the worst is the expectation of carting yourself from place to place all day long for fear of someone thinking they are not as loved if you don’t.

    It also stopped when we had kids. I now do Xmas day and Thanksgiving and visit before and after the holidays. Whoever wants to show up is welcome. Much better indeed.

    • admin
      November 22, 2010

      I can’t cook, and my wife doesn’t enjoy cooking either… so we are stuck going to both :(

  5. Jessica07
    November 22, 2010

    Great post. My husband and I actually just started the same tradition this year. We just celebrating Thanksgiving all day yesterday with my parents, so we can eat with his mom (his dad recently passed) on Thursday. It used to be, go to my parents, stay for a couple of hours, then go to his mom’s, get a guilt-trip for not staying longer, and then go to his dad’s and get another guilt trip for not coming sooner.

    • Money Reasons
      November 22, 2010

      We really enjoyed it more than we thought that we would :)

      I think this will be our new pattern year after year!

      I think it’s a classic lemons to lemonade kind of story!

  6. Jason @ Redeeming Riches
    November 22, 2010

    Great idea! Kids throw a whole new dynamic into the mix.

    We actually switch off every other year for the main course and then we’ll go to the others for dessert.

    Thankfully my parents and in-laws live less than 1/4 mile from each other!

    • Money Reasons
      November 22, 2010

      Ahh, them living so close to one another does make it easy at the holidays! Very nice!

      Yep, kids do change the equation, and the grandparents definitely want to see them, so we have to hit both houses. I’m glad it will be on different days from now on though!

  7. Crystal @ BFS
    November 22, 2010

    We flip flop Thanksgiving and Christmas every year. For example, this year we see my parents on Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve and my in-laws on Black Friday and Christmas Day. Next year, that switches. It’s slightly annoying but seems to make both our families happy. :-)

    • admin
      November 22, 2010

      Sounds like a great way to go about it to me!

      On Christmas, we go to my wife’s parent’s house on Christmas Eve, then to my parent’s house on Christmas Day.

      It’s busy anyway you look at it…

  8. Evan
    November 22, 2010

    UGH! Figuring out holiday plans is the bane of my existence. The Wife cries a bit, and then The Mom cries a bit…everyone feels slighted and then I get to clean it up.

    This year I got out of the whole mess with the upcoming baby. So now just The Wife is upset because we aren’t going down to her family at all until after the new year.

    • Money Reasons
      November 23, 2010

      It’s hard, that’s for sure!

      The idea my sister had was brilliant! Previously, I dreaded Thanksgiving because of eating too much food, and the guilt associated with leaving both of our parent’s house too quickly!

      This may be the becase Thanksgiving since we’ve been married!

  9. Little House
    November 23, 2010

    That’s a great solution to driving a total of 6 hours in one day (of course it’s 12 if they have to drive back the other way!) Last year, my husband and I spend Thanksgiving with my parents on Veteran’s Day and it was nice beating the holiday rush.

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